E27/S2 WINNER, NOT WHINER - Grumblers seldom come out on top

We hear Gerald S complain about work. He thinks deadlines are unfair and that Nolan, the team leader, has it out for him.  His colleague asks questions and tries to understand but suggests that it might be time for Gerald to find a new job if he hates it so much.

Whiners like Gerald can be harmful to the workplace. They have a negative focus and are always looking for sympathy. 

Taking responsibility for your needs and wants is essential to avoid sounding like a victim. Focus on positive thoughts, help others, and avoid blaming others for your problems. 

If you need to talk to a whiny co-worker, use "I-statements." For example, "I feel like I can't help with that right now" or "I wish I had more time to talk, but I have a deadline." 

If that doesn't work, could you talk to your boss about the problem as an organisational issue, not a personal complaint? 

Remember not to get trapped in a whiner mentality yourself. Stay positive and avoid making everything seem like a disaster. Instead, focus on solutions and things that are going well.

 

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www.myhappinessatwork.com/watch.

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